I have been repeatedly saying that ‘Do not fuss over things which are not under your control’ so, I think I should state about the things which are under control… right.  In my opinion, I feel we all have perfect control over our efforts, how and where and when to execute, I can’t guarantee the outcome, it depends on the person and frame of mind, we have a set of personal beliefs and not sure whether we follow all or not or possibly will, we have set of priorities and it depends on your age, we all have different priorities in each phase of life, it keeps changing and never be the same.  We have a set of ideas about how to be presentable, that too keep changing on a different phase of life,  we all are enriched with the virtues like kindness, compassion, care, love, bliss, and we exactly know when to bring out those feelings and emotions, I think it is constant, your virtues comes out and grows with your age, we also, know how to take things personally, we have general ideas about how to lead our life and what would be the ultimate object of life, we all know how to converse with people of a different mindset and what to converse, we have control over all those petite things like what to eat and what should not? Whom should we go out and when? Last but not least we all know which makes us happy and which does not... so hurry up....chase your happiness! 

My Mom was my first teacher and that will be forever.   All I have learned from my Mom, she taught us to be courageous and strong, to be disciplined and organized, to be confident,  listen to heart, and be a fighter always.   I had a good opportunity to be with her and learn many things as I was a middle child.  She was too strict during our childhood days, she wants everything to be done on time, she was so specific about each and every single thing in her children’s lives, like the dress, time to go to school, the food we eat, bathing hours, prayers, homework, etc....   If we break any of her pre-planned schedules, Gone….We impatiently wait for the final duty of the day, which is homework to finish so that we can have supper and hit the bed.     She was pretty good in sewing beautiful short summer gowns in bright colors; still I remember all those gorgeous patterns and love to wear them all, her sense of fashion was amazing, I inherited all those fashion ideas from her.  My sweetest childhood memories are playing with my girlfriends, rolling in mud and getting dirty; enjoy raining days and missing classes, etc… I have enjoyed my childhood to the fullest; I am happy that I have done that.  As a child I have troubled my Mom more than my siblings, she shut the doors and will not let me in the house, she does not like her children go against her pre-planned schedule, I was the big rule breaker, I spend hours playing with my school mates …. The other two children were too sincere.  I was not so great in studies, this made my Mom worried a lot, so she will check on me every now and then, later I have proved myself as the most studious among the three.  All I have taught because of my Mom’s painstaking efforts, no doubt in that.    My mom had tough time bringing me up as middle  child.   Now, seeing her too old and weak is breaking my heart, I want to see her in good physical shape and full of energy.  I know it is impossible to bring back all those things.  Thank you Lord for giving me such a wonderful parents ! Thank you Mommy! Love you always!

I have never tried to be perfect in my life.   It is meaningless to be perfect.  Who is perfect in this life? None, but I prefer some kind of clarity in my work.   Feeling guilty, blaming for silly mistakes, body shaming, feeling despised and overlooked by loved loves, feeling dejected and imperfect are the recipe for self- destruction, if you having nothing of the above, then you are truly fortunate.  It is all Okay to be imperfect, but over-stressing on the happenings which are not under your control is not a smart idea.   After all, we are humans with flaws, everyone has the freedom to think and follow a set of beliefs, and we all live our lives according to set of principle which makes us happy and comfortable.  If anything disappointing or nerve-racking should be kept at a bay.  We all want to be mentally strong without wasting time on thinking how sorry about our lives, without focusing on the happenings which we have no control over it, be strong as usual, not becoming a people pleaser, not brooding over past unpleasant memories, without making same mistakes over and over, free from bitterness over the success of others and last but not the least not scared of solitude.  It is inevitable in everyone’s life, at one point in time we all have to face it if you embrace it …. It will become heavenly….otherwise hell…The choice is yours!