Lessons of life –

Every lesson in life makes you or breaks you; hence take every opportunity to make you.  Difficulties are an unavoidable part of life, so approach them with a clear mindset, use them as a ladder for your growth, definitely, it is not for destroying you, it gives a chance to grow mentally stronger.  Life is meaningful, be it in solitude or in the company of friends and family.  Seek every opportunity to grow mentally, you can create your life happily, all that you need is a clear mindset.  Ignorance is the greatest enemy, never leave a single opportunity to read and learn; even a child’s message carries the greatest meaning.  Keep reading, whether you understood or not, develop the habit of reading, it is your best companion in your solitude, read everything your hands get on, read all those texts of different beliefs, you will understand the ultimate truth, we are unnecessarily stressing over every little material thing which has zero value, leaving behind the most invaluable truth of self-realization.  Be yourself, be kind, compassionate, caring, loving, and selfless.  Our trails are often muddy, full of twist and turns, does not matter, finally you made it  cleaner and brighter than before.  Physical appearance carries little, but inner- appearances is beautiful heart and mind all that matters.  You need not become perfect to be happy, your true self is happy because you have decided to look beyond the imperfections; you have two choices before you, either be happy and grateful for the things and people in life, or be miserable for what’s missing in your life.

Inner dialogue/silent self –talk

Productive, encouraging, and promising silent self-talks always help to boost our self-confidence, self-esteem, and self- respect,  which means overall mental well-being.  I do practice the same, believe me, it is super good.  You need not take everyone’s attention in doing so, silent self- talk is paying attention to your inner-voice as if you are listening to your beloved companion and inspire with positive talks.  This habit will help us not to seek external support for mental growth.  It will help you to find out your mental as well as physical discomforts at ease, accordingly, we can approach for medical help.  Silent self-talk can do wonders in your life, especially people living solitude, ‘Your sincere companion is your inner voice, it will not misguide you’.   This technique will work at all times, while you are stressed out, overjoyed, depressed, anxious, etc..  Daily practice of meditation and breathing techniques promote to build immense faith.  All our mindset and sentiments are transient nature, you cannot be happy always or sad, healthy or unhealthy, full of life or out of fuel.  Be a fighter; always look back on your success, remember that you have survived through several difficult times in your life; hence you will survive this too.  You need not require someone to pat on your shoulder to encourage you; you can do it by yourself.   

Time – stealer

We all have experienced that sense of regret and guilt; honestly, it is a horrible feeling, both can do nothing but spoil our present, somebody said it is like driving on a high way looking at a rear-view mirror, how horrifying is that? Complaining and keeping grudge makes life more bitter, anger is like drinking poison expecting another person to die, how gruesome is that? It destroys the mental peace as well as physical health, it cannot resolve any issues but it makes the problems grow deeper, honestly meditation tackles this vicious feeling in no time.  Forgiveness takes away half of the mental load, otherwise it is like punishing yourself for other person’s sin, clinging on to the unpleasant experiences will not help, instead, it will take the happiness of the present, therefore, practice forgive and forget.  Comparing one’s lifestyle, career, and achievements with another person is a complete disaster, this attitude makes us ungrateful towards goodness in our lives, how pathetic is that? If another person is happier than you mean, he had made many sacrifices to achieve that happiness, if somebody is miserable means they have not taken any initiative to transform them, is it not that simple? So comparing your life with someone’s is an absolute waste of time.  We all have experienced that worrying about the things which are not under our control which is baseless; do we have any control over the natural world? All that we could do is preserving our nature and natural resources; do we have any control over our life, happiness, sorrow, grief, miseries, accidents, deaths, Illnesses, epidemic and Natural calamities? We can take good care to prevent it, rest is fate, and therefore worrying about things that are not our control is a major time-stealer.

Meditation –

Meditation has a tremendous effect on emotional, mental as well as physical health.  This is one of the resourceful self-realization techniques.  Though I am a beginner to it, I strongly agree with the fact that it helps to achieve terrific mental and physical well-being.  First of all, it helps to de-clutter your mind, we need to not pile up our mind with unwanted thoughts which creates a roadblock to our daily activities, and it helps to have mental clarity, it enhances the creative part of the mind, it brings freshness, alertness and above all a wonderful feeling of liveliness.  We will get a clear idea of what to store what not to be stored in our mind; it helps us to easily let go of things or people who create mental fatigue.  It helps to a great extent to control over anger and sudden rush of feelings, sadness, jealous, etc.. the wonderful part is that it provides uncanny ability to bounce back into your real form, it changes your overall perception, you will definitely transform into a better person, more mature, kind, loving, and cheerful.  It contributes to good physical health, keeps you away from addiction forming habits.  Definitely, it will bring good performance results and improve concentration.  Keep meditating!

Realities of life –

Life is a roller coaster ride, we have two choices to make, and one gets accustomed to the joggle and jiggle, or cry for help.   I think the first one is better and sounds great, there is no guarantee that your cries will fall into ears.  Self-control is a commendable virtue, but tolerance to the wrong attitude is teaching people how to treat you, stay connected with the people who are sunshine in your life, it is essential to spread happiness and keep yourself mentally healthy.  Do not be a people-pleaser, it is impossible to do that while losing people or material things always think that you have Almighty with you.  Discipline is a precious gem, only a few will get the opportunity to grab it, if you do it, you are invaluable.  Always remember that each and every individual has different likes and dislikes, never expect that you should be liked by everyone, if not gracefully move out from their life with all the self-respect.  Everything has transitory nature, people, material happiness, grief, pain, afflictions, wealth, health, solitude etc… therefore embrace each and every moment, cling on to it as if it is the final moment.

The object of life –

‘Do your duties without expecting its fruit.” anyhow we have to perform our duties and responsibilities, none can stay free from activities, and in that case, we can make an effort to do all that good and reasonable duties isn’t it? Why we need to choose righteousness over evilness? Every action will create an impact on our lives, so scriptures and sacred texts insist us to follow righteous duties.  We have born in this world to pay off debts and sins; yes we are born with debts to supreme spirit, ancestors, humans, and authors of greatest beliefs and scriptures.  We are committing sins by words, deeds, and intellect, in every second in our lives.  Therefore, we are liable to pay off all those sins and debts accumulated in previous births and in this life.  How can we wash off all those sins and debts? The first thing is to accept that I have made treacherous sins, be apologetic wholeheartedly, and rectify it with a promise not to repeat the sins over and over.  Help the needy with food, clothing and shelter; spend substantial amount on charitable work with the knowledge that all that you have earned is not yours, it is the grace of Almighty, your contribution to earn wealth is too little, HE was the driving force behind you, you can’t even move an inch without His command, your charitable work will definitely multiply peace and serenity, ultimately you will find the object of your life. 

Success –

Who does not want to be successful?  We all dream of becoming successful and make every effort to be successful.  The hard and true fact is that everyone cannot  become successful, some of the reasons for not meeting their dream can be a lack of purpose in life, most of the successful people have various ambitions which fuel the purpose, like uplift family, serving weaker sections of the society or community, etc… therefore purpose of life and ambition are interconnected, procrastination is another a biggest roadblock in the path of success,  procrastinators  do not engage in any productive activity, lack of discipline and planning can be another reason, planning is essential, sometimes if Plan A did not work the way you want, you should be ready  to work on Plan B and Plan C, to achieve the desired results.  Lack of patience and focus often put you in a state of out of fuel; success is something achievable through the proper utilization of time, money, skill, and machines.  Age is not a factor to keep you away from learning, there are three categories of people, some are not willing to learn or some are scared of failures, or some are too rigid with their mindsets which block them to learn new things.  Poor time management and bad financial management also becomes the biggest hurdle for success.