We all welcome changes in life, if you follow the same old practice, relaxation techniques, approach, etc… wouldn’t be dreary?  We all have the ability to accept changes in life, you may get surprised…Yes... The truth is that we are made up that way, so why to worry about changes? It is inevitable. A small initiative makes big changes in our life,    stop complaining about what you are lacking and appreciate how lucky you are to have, as I always say embrace loneliness, it is not hard as you think, initially, it may scare you, but in the end, you will feel it is really a blessing to be away from all the emotional drams, it will help reinvent yourself in the process and will take you closer to your ultimate objective.  I am pretty sure in this process you will attain long lost peace.  One thing we always have to make sure to   keep away from things and people who are consuming our good energy,  cultivate the habit of finding  positive  even the worst times, never stop reading, it will definitely improve your mindset,  listening to more truth-seeking lectures are bliss, it will  improve the perception, and  finally writing down your feelings and emotions, Awwwwwww! It is a great feeling.  Always remember to put all your efforts on things which make you happier.   Daily exercises keep you mentally and physically fit, sweat every day to boost your inner energy.  Be willing to learn from mistakes and never repeat the same. When things get tougher always remember that we had overcome our most difficult challenges, therefore we can face this too, if everything is easy life won’t be enjoyable isn’t it, things will be changed when you get up the next morning or be patient, time is the best healer, life is like a roller coaster there are two options either scream or enjoy the ride…I do both J

I  have found that waking up at the same time every day gives a sense of enthusiasm.  If it is before the sun rise, it is perfect.  Keeping a fixed time for meditation on a regular basis helps me mindful, calm and creative.   Drinking more water improves physical as well as mental health, it helps the skin glow and removes dryness, it de-stress and removes dehydration, believe me it prevents aging too J Winking!. Writing is my passion; I wake up with a fresh idea to write, most of the time I get marooned with numerous ideas, finally end up in writing whatever comes to my mind at that moment.     I always pre-plan the activities of the day, if it gets disorderly I feel very frustrated.  I love to cook my favorite meals on holidays.  My Dad introduced me long walks in the morning, it makes me feel top of the world.  There was a time, I used to drive hours to visit the library and get a handful of books,  I love reading fiction, fairy tales, creative writing,  self-help books, history, classic tales,  and the list goes endless….but no thriller or suspense.   I always make sure to get good sleep; I can stay hungry but not without proper sleep.  I always want to make myself update with financial status and personal documents on a regular basis.  I think it is very important for all to thoroughly understand their financial status so that you will get an idea of how much you can allocate for contributions and charity…..Living for giving is a wonderful feeling,  cannot express in words.  All that earned is not ours, it is a blessing from Almighty so I make sure we three are spending as much as we could for charity purposes.  It will definitely create a sense of gratitude and it is essential in all walks of life.   Once in a while declutter kitchen items and clothing helps to create more empty space, it will give us an opportunity to get things you really love to have in your home at the same time it will help to satisfy the requirements of people in need.  Every day will teach you some lesson; eventually, good ones keep you happy and bad ones help you grow stronger.    It is my earnest opinion, never be afraid of solitude, if you embrace it, it will help you to grow mentally, give a chance to know what’s inspiring you the most, you will build up your own beliefs, and learn new skills.

I am not perfect, I have made many bad decisions and wrong choices like everyone does, after all, we are humans with flaws, and I terribly feel sorry for them.   I say stupid things sometimes, I do laugh at things which I am not supposed to do, but I make sure to perform my tasks with sincerity.  I rarely go silent, because I am the only one give some background music in my home, otherwise my home goes utter silence, and no one likes that.    If I am silent means I am tired of arguments and on the self-healing process, luckily my people respect that.  I am a very simple person, I do not stuff my days with lots of activities, I stay limited hours inside the home, I am a nature’s person, I feel extremely happy being with nature, rather than stuffing myself in the company of a human.   I genuinely wish to change some of my habits.   I want to do less talking, but often I fail to do so.  I am a crazy fan of Junk foods, hmmm…. I don’t stick with any diet plans, I don’t know whether I will succeed in this task, worrying is part of my gene…Ha Ha Ha…honestly, worries are like waves in the ocean, and does it stop for anyone? Hence, I am giving least importance to it, no one is sure about what may come next, therefore ‘Toss your worries, and live in like last moment’, this is how I handle myself.  Believe me, it is a great way to escape from anxieties.

I have been repeatedly saying that ‘Do not fuss over things which are not under your control’ so, I think I should state about the things which are under control… right.  In my opinion, I feel we all have perfect control over our efforts, how and where and when to execute, I can’t guarantee the outcome, it depends on the person and frame of mind, we have a set of personal beliefs and not sure whether we follow all or not or possibly will, we have set of priorities and it depends on your age, we all have different priorities in each phase of life, it keeps changing and never be the same.  We have a set of ideas about how to be presentable, that too keep changing on a different phase of life,  we all are enriched with the virtues like kindness, compassion, care, love, bliss, and we exactly know when to bring out those feelings and emotions, I think it is constant, your virtues comes out and grows with your age, we also, know how to take things personally, we have general ideas about how to lead our life and what would be the ultimate object of life, we all know how to converse with people of a different mindset and what to converse, we have control over all those petite things like what to eat and what should not? Whom should we go out and when? Last but not least we all know which makes us happy and which does not... so hurry up....chase your happiness! 

My Mom was my first teacher and that will be forever.   All I have learned from my Mom, she taught us to be courageous and strong, to be disciplined and organized, to be confident,  listen to heart, and be a fighter always.   I had a good opportunity to be with her and learn many things as I was a middle child.  She was too strict during our childhood days, she wants everything to be done on time, she was so specific about each and every single thing in her children’s lives, like the dress, time to go to school, the food we eat, bathing hours, prayers, homework, etc....   If we break any of her pre-planned schedules, Gone….We impatiently wait for the final duty of the day, which is homework to finish so that we can have supper and hit the bed.     She was pretty good in sewing beautiful short summer gowns in bright colors; still I remember all those gorgeous patterns and love to wear them all, her sense of fashion was amazing, I inherited all those fashion ideas from her.  My sweetest childhood memories are playing with my girlfriends, rolling in mud and getting dirty; enjoy raining days and missing classes, etc… I have enjoyed my childhood to the fullest; I am happy that I have done that.  As a child I have troubled my Mom more than my siblings, she shut the doors and will not let me in the house, she does not like her children go against her pre-planned schedule, I was the big rule breaker, I spend hours playing with my school mates …. The other two children were too sincere.  I was not so great in studies, this made my Mom worried a lot, so she will check on me every now and then, later I have proved myself as the most studious among the three.  All I have taught because of my Mom’s painstaking efforts, no doubt in that.    My mom had tough time bringing me up as middle  child.   Now, seeing her too old and weak is breaking my heart, I want to see her in good physical shape and full of energy.  I know it is impossible to bring back all those things.  Thank you Lord for giving me such a wonderful parents ! Thank you Mommy! Love you always!

I have never tried to be perfect in my life.   It is meaningless to be perfect.  Who is perfect in this life? None, but I prefer some kind of clarity in my work.   Feeling guilty, blaming for silly mistakes, body shaming, feeling despised and overlooked by loved loves, feeling dejected and imperfect are the recipe for self- destruction, if you having nothing of the above, then you are truly fortunate.  It is all Okay to be imperfect, but over-stressing on the happenings which are not under your control is not a smart idea.   After all, we are humans with flaws, everyone has the freedom to think and follow a set of beliefs, and we all live our lives according to set of principle which makes us happy and comfortable.  If anything disappointing or nerve-racking should be kept at a bay.  We all want to be mentally strong without wasting time on thinking how sorry about our lives, without focusing on the happenings which we have no control over it, be strong as usual, not becoming a people pleaser, not brooding over past unpleasant memories, without making same mistakes over and over, free from bitterness over the success of others and last but not the least not scared of solitude.  It is inevitable in everyone’s life, at one point in time we all have to face it if you embrace it …. It will become heavenly….otherwise hell…The choice is yours!

Recently, I happened to read about how colors influence a person.  It was quite interesting and somewhat true to my knowledge. I begin with my favorite colors….Red symbolizes power, it stimulates adrenal gland and neurons, it can add up stress,  provoke anger and frustration, it increases heartbeat and respiration, it is associated with great energy, hence it enhances human metabolism, and raises blood pressure.  Turquoise blue has a calming effect to the mind, it slows down human metabolism, it brings tranquility and depressive mood, and it suppresses appetite.  Orange augments mental abilities, creativity, and causes increased appetite.  Green has a soothing effect on eyes, it helps mental relaxation and relieves stress, it improves vision and has healing and hygienic effect.  Yellow helps to boost serotonin levels in the brain, which protects from anxiety, insomnia, panic disorders, and depression, too much of anything can cause mental fatigue, it speeds up metabolism, it stimulates pleasant and happy cells in the brain. White is an outstanding color, it is a symbol of purity, it has a soothing effect, enhances confidence, and well-being.  Black is exceptional, it represents perception and depth.  Gray is elegant and it enhances expectations.  Pink reduces stress anxiety and anger, it has feminine qualities.  Purple develops an interest in spirituality, deepen thoughts and sexuality, it produces gloomy, depressed state of mind causes frustration.  Is not that interesting?